alright, so my last post got 0 comments, first time in a while, so im posting somthing i wana hear you oppinion about.
are we products of our environment?
i say yea, but its not that simple. i think genetics also has alot to do with it. i think our genetic make up decides how seceptible we are to curtain things, like our environment (whats absent, and in excess).
i dont know why i am gay, and im not blaming my parents, or the house that i grew up in, but i always wonder if that could be part of it. i also dont think i was "born gay." i think i was born more seceptible to a homosexual influence, and i think my interpretation of thoes influences is what made me gay. i was not born gay because if you look at me as a child, yes, i'll admit, i used to like to play with my neighbors barbies, but not because i liked fasion, but because of the type of imagination i have. sorry straid from the sentence. i was not born gay because i thought girls were prety, i likes masculin things, and at that age, i was a "normal" straight boy.
i could be gay because i was always looking up to my sister, and she was always saying boys were cute, and had a wall full of photos of guys. maybe i was trying to emulate her, and because of that, im gay.
ill never know why im gay, and to be honnest, i dont ever want to know, all i know is im happy being gay, and it is who i am.
Peace!
PS Tman, if your reading this, im honestaly sorry if i make you feel like your efforts are pointless, and if i took all of your motivation and fun out of blogging. plz come back!!!
And So It Goes (2014)
9 years ago
8 comments:
Hi there, Spys
There seem to be three possible areas for the origin of homosexuality in a person:
- genetics
- chemical/hormonal influences in the womb
- developmental influences while growing up
Given how genetics seems to work in other areas, I suspect that it provides a predisposition to be gay, but that (as you say) those other influences are needed too. The human mind is an extraordinarily complex thing (probably the most complex thing we know of) and I suspect we're a very long way from properly understanding how sexuality develops.
What's most important to me in this post is this: "im happy being gay, and it is who i am". It's wonderful to see you write this - congratulations! If you're happy with who and what you are, I think everything else in your life will work out.
*hugs*
Mark
You are asking the question everyone wants to know the answer to, but no one does. I certainly don't. I think it is just one of life's mysteries. We just have to do the best we can with what we have and who we are.
WoW, don't know what to say on this one. I read what you wrote and thought back. I like all the things that boys do. I always played with tonka trucks when I was little, then race car and train sets, erector sets, legos, play guns, cops and robbers, horses, dirt bikes, sports pictures on my walls, wrestling with others boys, boxing. All boy stuff. I never played with dolls and I still don't. I don't wear girly boy cloths, mostly 501 jeans with t-shirts and sneakers or cowboy boots. Just when I was about 9 or 10 I just started to look at boys not girls. Girls are ok for friends, but I never looked at girls to get excited, it was always boys. So I don't know what to think about this one. I think I was borne this way. I am like you I know I am gay and I am happy with it to. It don't bother me so much now as it did when I first came to the internet for questions and answers. Hugs JJ
I love you, kid... don't worry... I'm just a little sad... luv, tman<3
Mark, i agree, the human brain is the most complex and frustrating thing know to man kind. and thanks =)
Brian, i agree, and i guess some mysteries should be left unsolved.
JJ, i never really liked girl think all that much eather. i was always kenn when the girls would play with there barbies haha. im glad your happy too =)
Tman, i love you too. im sorry you feel sad!! i dont like seeing you sad. if its somthing i did, please email me!
Peace!!!
Hi there, Spys and JJ (I hope you'll read this too)
I don't think there's any connection between a person's sexuality and the type of toys or clothes they prefer. I'm pretty sure most gay men preferred conventional boys' clothes and toys as children. The idea of "girly" boys turning out gay is just another bit of stereotyping from a prejudiced straight world. But it would be good to see some genuine research on this, if there is any.
Take care
Mark
Mark, your right, there dosent have to be that connection, but in some boys, it is that way.
Peace
@JJ - I was the same way. And the timing seems about right, too. Sometime around there, it was more exciting to think about boys than girls. And as puberty hit in the next year or two, the emotional connections seemed to click, too. I think I've always known I was gay, but until I was older (like high school), never had the word to put to it because it simply wasn't talked about back then.
Biological, or how you were raised. A question that may never be answered fully, but Mark's assertion that there are many factors that likely influence the final outcome seems to make the most sense.
Jay
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